Thanks @Yohan_G1 , it’s been a long time since we’ve spoken, what have you become? (let’s talk in private)
You hit the nail on the head, that’s exactly what I was thinking. When I wrote the post in the forum I felt really bad. But further on I saw this situation as a huge opportunity to understand myself better, to understand what I want and what I don’t want, to have a clearer picture of myself. And it worked. I still have a lot to learn but I was able to understand some things already.
I remain myself, that doesn’t change, only that I learn and become a better version of myself but the essence remains the same.
The few times I have tried to change my essence for external things has ended badly. In work it ended in burnout, and in personal it ended in heartbreak. So I learned my lesson, I can develop but never change my essence, never.
Haha thank you for your advice but I don’t believe much in the western/modern soulmate theory. all the greatest conquerors of this world didn’t have one woman with them but dozens, Alexander the Great, Augustus, Qin shi huang, Genghis Khan or Muhammad…
The one time I deviated from this personal belief, I ended up heartbroken.
So if you believe in soul mates, I sincerely hope you find yours.
In the meantime, bro, we’re young, let’s make a maximum of experiences, dating, traveling, trying and when the good time comes, we might think about starting a family.