Bonsoir les frérots, désolé pour les fautes c’est écrit d’une traite
One of my best friends just finishing his studies. An excellent diploma and 1 year on experience in an excellent company in part-time studies. He finished in October and spent his whole October playing videogames.
I decided to spend time with him by explaining France’s problems and how it could be great for him to quit France for a foreign country or a French-job in easter Europe.
He said, « Yes Yes I know France is a sh*thole but there’s a job in Paris and I’m interested, I’ll find a flat here and it will be ok ».
I just asked, « How much will you earn »? He answered « 2300 euros after taxes » « Dude, » I said, you can’t find a flat under 1000-1100 euros in Paris and you know it’s France worst place. People are crazy here and you can’t live here under 3500-4500 euros".
After this argument, I showed him some videos. Corda, Delavier, Tugan, Dereeper, Kublaï, in order to find the good man that can « hit » him with his arguments. And it works!
He calls his family at the beginning of December and said « Mom, Dad, I’ll try a foreign country, 2 or 3 years ». They answered « okay but you know France is cool, your family is here and all your friends blablabla »
I kept a certain « pressure » on him sending videos and applying for online meeting with him, sometimes late at night (complicated when you wake up at 5:30 am), looking for jobs, and joking about his future life outside France.
Here’s the point. Last week he went to his family. I received a message today at 7 pm (french hour)
« I found a flat in Paris, I’ll move here on the 29th of December ». I was really really disappointed, but not really surprised. I knew that when he will visit his family they will absolutely f*ck his mind. They are in the « Find a job and shut up » schema.
One of my best friends will stay in France, it makes me a little sad but I’m happy to see that some other of my IRL friends are here now in DBL or in FDPH. I really wanted this other friend with me here, maybe it’s my ego hurting me now.
I shared this story with you because if your family wants you to stay in France, they are a part of your problem, really.
It’s the first time I realised how it can be difficult to keep behind you people that were almost ready to leave, but their umbilical cord with France isn’t cutted.
I will just remember him like a good friend, sharing years of studies and who now is « blind » and keep working to be happy where people are normal.